Two Essential Resources for Teaching Your Children Biblical Character

When my first son was young, my husband and I wanted to find a way to teach him {and future children} to have good character and to live a godly life. I read plenty of books on child training and parenting and received a lot of advice on the do’s and don’ts of raising a child. And, being the Type A person I am, I tried to follow that advice. To the letter.

But somewhere along the way, what I really wanted to teach my children got lost in that stack of books. My approach was legalistic and I didn’t even know it. I was training them in outward moral behavior, without really focusing on what was most important–their hearts.

I became convicted about this, and my husband with me, when we took a parenting class called Growing Kids God’s Way. One of the principles emphasized in this class was teaching the “reason why” to our children, which led the way to looking at our children’s heart attitude and encouraging their character according to what the Bible teaches, not just working on behavior modification.

In other words, I realized it is dangerous to try to require Christian behavior from a child if we do not first teach them the law and the gospel: that we sin and that our sins are paid for by the death and resurrection of Jesus. That this is what brings salvation and that they cannot earn good standing with God by outward actions. I truly believe this is what we sometimes miss out on as Christian parents.

I am so glad we have the opportunity to use Scripture to guide our children’s lives, first by teaching them about the grace of God through Jesus Christ and second by “training up a child in the way he should go”!

My study Bible says that the Hebrew expression of “train up a child” found in Prov. 22:6 includes the idea of inauguration, or starting a child’s life along in a particular way, that being the way of wisdom. “True wisdom maintains itself because it has the humility to continue learning in the way.”

We cannot force character and humility and that’s okay, because we want to allow the Lord to reach our children’s hearts first and foremost! Our little ones will never be perfectly obedient with perfectly good attitudes all the time, as some of the books I read seemed to imply. I’m certainly not that way, and I can’t expect that perfection from my children!

What are some of the ways we can show our child the “way of wisdom”? There are two wonderful resources I have found that have worked well for our family.

The First Way to Teach Biblical Character

The first is absolutely essential and, as you probably expected, it’s the Word of God! Reading and teaching Scripture to our children from when they are very young gets the Word into their little hearts, where it will grow and produce fruit!

If you need some tips for teaching the Word to your kids, here are a few places you can find ideas!

• 4 Ways to Teach Scripture to Your Baby or Toddler
• Character Cards for Praying with Your Kids
• Teach Your Child with a Bible Verse Puzzle
• 15 Bible Verses to Pray Over Your Kids this School Year
• The Busy Mom’s Guide to Teaching Character
• Printable Bible Verses for Your Preschooler

{Related: 7 Ways to Start Teaching the Bible to Your Children at Home}

A Second Essential for Teaching Character

Sometimes I find that I get stuck trying to find a particular verse that related to a certain, ahem, character quality that my children need to work on. I was so pleased to find a booklet called Wise Words for Moms by Ginger Plowman, which I now consider my second essential resource!

In it, there is a fairly comprehensive list of behaviors such as Disobedience, Complaining, Bad Attitudes, Tattling and more. Next to each behavior she provides some “heart probing” questions, then a verse of reproof (putting off) and encouragement (putting on). She gives several other Scriptures I can refer to for more on that behavior.

The reason my husband and I love this resource so much is that it gives us an immediate reference when we’re dealing with character issues, directing us straight to the Word! We can talk in a non-threatening way about these things with our children, and it allows us to use Scripture to encourage their little hearts, instead of us just using phrases like “stop it” or “don’t do that again” :)

After we chat about these things, we pray together that God will give us wisdom and character and plenty of grace! I use it for myself too! {You can buy it on Amazon, where it’s only $4.}

What are some resources you use for teaching character in your children?