We’re going to turn now to the more personal side of blogging. 
 
Blogging isn’t just about stats, followers, readers and making money. It’s something that involves our very heart and soul. Something that can either bring blessing or a curse to us and to our families. 
 
My friend Lindsey from The Road to 31 is writing today on this very truth!

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Self Reflection

Do you ever find yourself so overwhelmed that you are forced into a type of self-reflection that you never quite recover from it?
I am not talking about your simple run of the mill priority check.  I am referring to those moments where you realize how deep your sin goes, and how completely bereft of all hope you are to overcome it by yourself.
This is where I have been for the last two months.

How It All Began

I began my blog when we lived in a very rural area.  I had no friends and no place to serve in ministry.  At my husband’s insistence I began a blog if for no other reason than just to have one solitary place I could voice my thoughts and work through those things I was meditating on during my Bible study.
What began as something simple and personal, very quickly ignited into something larger than I had originally intended.  I wrote The ABC’s for Godly Children Bible Series last Fall, and its debut launched me full force into the blogosphere.  I began networking and learning A LOT.  All of this networking required a lot of chatting online; learning required a lot of reading and experimenting.
I had a lot of ideas and not enough time.  I wanted to grow my blog, write more eBooks, and connect with other bloggers.  We have been struggling through unemployment so I also carried the burden of providing for our family in any way that I could by monetizing my life online.

Idols

One day my husband asked me, “Where does it all end?  When will you be content with where you stand without always trying to break through to the next level?
He realized at the time, even thought I had not admitted it, that my blog had become an idol.  I was pouring all my time and effort into my little block of the online world, yet it wasn’t giving me the fulfillment I was seeking.  My blog had become a far cry from its original intended purpose.  Scrolling through the archives it was obvious that it reflected the chaos that was our life rather than any positive sanctification in my own heart.
A heart overhaul began.  My family had suffered greatly for my sin.  I had put my blog before my daily Bible study, time with my husband, and real quality involvement with my children.  Conviction overwhelmed me as I began to ponder where this path would lead.
I do not want my blog to be my legacy.If I have a large ministry online and if I have several published works to my name, yet come to the end of my life and have missed the mark with both my husband and my children then I have failed miserably.  I am not superwoman.  I cannot do it all.  The first step is admitting this.

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Forgiven but Still Fallen

Where does this leave me?  I am still figuring it all out.  I do not feel God telling me to eradicate The Road to 31 and to stop all involvement on the web.  That would be a very impulsive reaction to something that is more a matter of my own heart and motives.  I do realize, however, that this is going to be a daily struggle to get my priorities in order and shed those things that get in the way of what is truly important.
A blog in and of itself can be a wonderful thing.

Great ministries have been born out of simple blogs.  Close communities are formed every day online.  It is not wrong to want to be a part of these things, or even initiate these things.  We must ask ourselves regularly, however, “Am I doing this for myself or am I doing it to glorify God?”  This question deserves an honest and even self-deprecating answer.

As humans we are all inherently sinful.  Everything we do has some selfish motive to it.  The only way that we are able to glorify God is by the Holy Spirit within us using our feeble works to accomplish God’s sovereign will.  If God wants our blogs to grow they will grow, but never for a second should we think it is because there is something special about us.  It is a great sin to steal glory from God when whether by word of by thought we assume that there was something unique in us that made that happen.
We must daily turn our idols over to the Lord and seek Him as we strive to serve our families and do those things which are the “extras” we feel Him calling us to accomplish.  Our family must come first.  The “extras” are NEVER as important and can always be set aside indefinitely if the primary insists.

A Good Reminder

A close friend, Richele from Under the Golden Apple Tree, once said to me “Children do not interrupt our blogging; Blogging interrupts our mothering.”  Following our conversation she proceeded to write a blog post inspired by that exact statement.  I think we should all have that on a post it note stuck to the corner of our computer screens.
Whether we are talking about our children, our husbands, our churches, our homes, or our own spiritual growth – our blog is the road block, not the other way around.  We must keep our blogs in their proper place.
You are not superwoman.  You cannot do it all.  Do not let your blog become your legacy.  A wife, mother, and homemaker is called to glorify God in her marriage, family, and church first.  If her blog is one of the ways she is able to contribute to Titus 2 ministry, then praise be to God, but beware the foothold of the blogging world.  A legacy left online is not worth the sacrifice in the real world.

Further up and Further in

My husband needs a wife who is a helpmeet.  My children need a mother who is discipling them and sharing the Gospel with their hearts.  My church needs a broken sinner like me who can minister and disciple other young ladies.

My blog is my ministry, yes, but it is not real life.  God made me to go out into my home, community, and the world to speak His Word.  If I limit myself to my blog alone, I will miss so much of what was intended by Christ in His Great Commission to His disciples.

Join me on The Road to 31 as I follow-up later this week with those specific areas I am now intentionally and practically focusing on to guard myself from allowing this to happen again in the future.

I would also love to hear how you might struggle in similar areas with balancing your real life with your online life. 
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Lindsey Stomberg is a pastor’s wife and loving mother to four little blessings living in Tennessee. Reading, sewing, and crafting are a few of the things that Lindsey enjoys doing when she is not cuddling with her hubby or playing with her children. Lindsey is cataloging her journey to become the Proverbs 31 woman on her blog, The Road to 31. Grab a cup of coffee and join Lindsey while she blogs about the Bible, natural living, marriage, homemaking, homeschooling and more!

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9 Comments on Don’t Let Your Blog Be Your Legacy

  1. What a wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your heart. I just launched my blog last month but had the idea for it almost 2 years ago and kept it on the back-burner because I didn’t want to take time away from my commitments to my family and God. Now that I have the blog I know I will need to pray daily to keep my priorities in order as blogging certainly could become all-consuming.

    • Monica, Congratulations on your new blog. I pray God blesses many women through your testimony. It sounds like you already have a great start to keeping your priorities in order. I am sure I could learn much from you.

  2. This is such a great reminder to me, especially at this particular place in my life. Thank you for your vulnerability and walking in the light. Blessings!
    —Lisa
    octobergrapes.blogspot.com

    • Thank you, Lisa. I’m so glad that we can all walk together on this journey sharing our trials with each other and edifying each other in the Lord as sisters.

  3. This has been a wake up call for me! Recently I decided to take blogging more seriously.. But lately I have been spending too much time networking and blogging.. it’s time to step back and focus on the real reason I blog – my family. Thank you so much for this post!!

    • Thank you for such a kind comment and for your honesty about your life. I believe this is a pitfall we all face. It is good to be understanding of each other but also edifying as we strive to be more like Christ and less like our selfish selves. May God bless you and help you to look more like His Son.

    • Thank you for yours, and I think that is a fantastic commitment. I will consider that for myself as I reflect and re-prioritize! I do think this is a problem for many.

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