How to raise a confident Christian daughter, with guidance from Scripture to make them strong and find their confidence in Jesus!
As a mom of two daughters (currently 4 and 10), it’s been on my heart over the past few months to find Bible verses for girls that would speak specifically to them both as young and tween girls, so they will build confidence and be strong.
However, a couple of weeks ago, I was really struck by the truth that my previous ideas about how my daughters should build self-confidence….were wrong.
All along, I’d been thinking that my girls needed to be built up so that their self-confidence level would be high, empowering them to take on the world, do what God created them to do and not let others stand in their way.
After all, don’t we hear these confident, powerful phrases often, even swirling around the Christian culture?
She believed she could, and so she did.
Self-confidence is the best outfit. Wear it and rock it.
Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle.
Wake, pray, slay.
But, after listening to Susan Hunt, a Christian psychologist and “Titus 2” mentor, share at a women’s conference, my understanding of the concept of self-confidence was completely turned around by a single phrase in her speech:
“What we need is not self-confidence, what we need is Christ confidence.”
To be honest, what she said irritated me a bit at first.
They don’t need self-confidence? I mean, don’t we want our daughters to be “fierce and brave”? Don’t we want to build them up so that when people aren’t kind to them, that they will still know how important and amazing they are?
Well, yes. But not in the way that we think. Here is the rest of what Susan Hunt said in that same part of her speech that puts that strong statement in context:
“So let me encourage you: The world tells us to develop self-confidence. But the Bible says to put no confidence in the flesh. What we need is not self-confidence. We need Christ confidence. So don’t fight against your weakness, and don’t deny your weakness. Let it bring a child-like dependence upon our strong Savior.”
And you know what? She’s right!! The Bible doesn’t talk about having “self” confidence. But it talks an awful lot about having confidence in Jesus. In HIS power and might and strength. In GOD’S goodness and grace.
Cease striving and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” The Lord of hosts is with us; The God of Jacob is our stronghold. Psalm 46:10
Jesus, then, is our true source of confidence. And the source of confidence that our girls need to cling to as well.
When they know, love and depend on God, confidence will develop.
With God’s Word in their hearts, they will become brave and face the mean girls and the hard times with a resolved heart that can only come from Him.
With Jesus’ grace poured over them, they will be filled with the courage and strength they need. And that strength will come from the only One who is not weak and who lovingly takes our weakness and brings strength from it.
And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:9-11
Think of the Christian women you admire and want to emulate. Are they powerful and strong from a worldly perspective? Are they successful and famous?
Or do they act with confidence, serving others, making a difference in the world because their confidence and trust in Christ came first?
These are the type of women that I want my daughters to become.
As humans, we are naturally weak and given to selfishness (spend 5 minutes with a toddler and you’ll understand what I mean!). And even if we feel self-confident at times, things will happen that will snatch away our sense of confidence…if it is only found in us.
But with Christ-confidence? Our daughters won’t be shaken. They will grow in so many wonderful ways and turn out to be:
- Servants with a heart for others, not puffed up in themselves.
- Loving toward others because Jesus loved them first.
- Being confident in God, so that they can share Him with others who may not have heard.
- Bravely facing difficult days because they have Jesus and His unchanging Word to rely on.
It’s my prayer that you want this Christ-confident future for your daughters as well!
How to Raise Confident Christian Daughters According to the Bible
To encourage them in this way, here are 11 Bible Verses for Your Girls That Will Inspire Christ-Confidence!
There are printable Bible verse cards at the end of this post, that you can have access to when you subscribe via email. You can print them out and share with your daughters (it’s a great reminder for us as moms too!) to inspire the confidence that comes through Jesus and show them wonderfully God has created them!
11 Bible Verses for Girls That Inspire Christ-Confidence
Ephesians 3:12 – “In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence.” NIV
Isaiah 32:17 – “And the work of righteousness will be peace, and the service of righteousness, quietness and confidence forever.”
Philippians 1:6 – “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Isaiah 43:2 – “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they will not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched, nor will the flame burn you.”
Psalm 31:24 – “Be strong and let your heart take courage, all you who hope in the Lord.”
2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” NKJV
Psalm 46:5 – “God is in the midst of her, she will not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.”
Psalm 27:1 – “The Lord is my light and my salvation; Whom shall I fear? The Lord is the defense of my life; Whom shall I dread?”
Hebrews 4:16 – “Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”
Colossians 3:2-3 – “Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.”
2 Corinthians 12:9-11 – “And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.”